These times are far from a typical situation for anybody, but as a young adult on the autism spectrum, I’ve found that moving out during an international pandemic provided me the time to do some major reflection (since there’s not much else to do!).
While I am still in the “honeymoon stages” of living on my own in a new apartment (6 weeks in), I am truly enjoying the freedom, and even solitude, that come from being on my own. I have to say that I was not nervous because I was at the point in my life where I was ready to tackle this milestone head-on. This was a piece of my life that I needed to just get up and do: all the preparation I had undergone had to be put to use (to find out what I did, read my book!). The only kind of ”fear” I had was not being able to put all the pieces together while they were fresh in my mind: the cooking, the cleaning, the shopping, the finances…not to mention my professional responsibilities. But once I established an effective routine and took things day by day, I feel content in the way I’m handling things.
I recognize that more considerations about finances and independent spending will come up when “life” and social options start to open back up again. Still, I am a man of simple needs. I find myself filled with determination to just stay on top of things: when I get a bill, or a reminder to pay my rent, I submit the payments immediately so as not to worry about possibly forgetting. By planning to keep that up as the world begins to turn the “COVID Corner”, I like to think that everything can, and will, fall into place.
I also consider myself very thankful to live in close proximity to my parents, who possess immense financial and economic insight and knowledge. I know that whenever there is an issue or something I’m confused about, I can give them a call and expect to receive a clear, concise explanation and guidance in carrying out the appropriate path to take. And knowing they passed on those same qualities to my older brothers, when it’s time for my parents to pass on, I know that I will still have great support to aide me in my adult life.
A major thing that this year has taught me is that maintaining the quality of one’s life is important; you have to hold yourself to the highest level of responsibility possible! Attitude begets results: whether I be lazy or productive is now up to me. Being totally responsible for my own wellbeing, I intend to make sure that my standards never slack.